In the comments below, Leo asks some vital questions.
With regard to parents in denial as to their child's experience of school, Leo asks:
"Do you really think that the parents of those children you know would have any ability at all to home-educate?"
In the cases I was writing about, yes, I do. The thing that strikes me about these families is how well they parent their children outside of the school. They do a good job. One family lack for academic qualifications, but the thing that is striking about this family is that their children are very similar to the parents in that they too struggle to achieve standard academic success, but like their parents, they bring an enormous amount of unschoolie type skills to the game. Their parents may not know how to write a well-rounded essay, but they know how to build a house (without ever having been taught). They know how to mend a lawn mower (again self-taught). They know how to care for young children. All these skills the children have inherited and the parents encourage and guide. The family could also access other kinds of skills from the HE community, so yes...even with this family, with apparent educational disadvantage, I think that their children would be far better off at home than in school, where the children are bored, disaffected and often beaten up.
"Would the children be happy with their parents?"
Yes, in these cases.
"Do you think it would be enough for the parents to snap out of the school meme for everything to be alright?"
Yes, pretty much. Of course, families would hopefully continue to grow and improve together, but the baseline starting point would be very satisfactory in all three cases. Of course, these are just the ones we are talking about here. There would be other situations where this would not be the case, but it seems sad that there is such a simple solution out there for these families which they are just too scared or too entrenched to take.
"Do you think once a person is a parent, they have to quit on growing and conform to aging?"
Lol...NO. I think most people only really start to grow once they have kids.
"You don't want to force parents but you point them as immoral if they are not kind enough to home-educate".
I would point to them as deeply immoral if they knew they could do it, their children were suffering and yet they still didn't do it. However, the immorality of the situation in these three examples is strongly mitigated by the fact that these families are so heavily invested in the school meme that they believe they cannot do it. Information on how they could manage it would help, but is not even then necessarily sufficient, given the strength of the school meme.
"If there were no cruel truant laws and children were allowed to miss school, they would be happier bunnies. If they could miss classes... If they could go out and about in the street during the day without being harassed by police and idiotic adults... If they were allowed in public establishments during the day like the rest of human beings... If there were no stupid signs rejecting children from establishments like they were dogs...But no, your culture treats kids like shit and on top of it disguises it with science. You have to take a stance against that, not just the parents. Parents don't adopt memes out of the blue, it's all around them".
If we hang around waiting for the state and the rest of society to clean up its act, our kids would miss out. Far better to grab the initiative on a micro level and start the revolution that way. If one has any energy left over, putting the HE message out seems like a responsible idea. Tackling the need for ASBOs etc may be a waste of energy, since they are demonstrably necessary now for a population who have been institutionalised, infantalized and from whom all real responsibility has been removed.